Next Phase

So, I got a message from the guy: “wanna text?” Guess he is ready to move into the next phase of online dating: the texting phase.

I know what you are thinking – weren’t you two already messaging each other? What’s the difference?

We were messaging through the dating site. Texting with phones is easier. More convenient.

I guess I will give him my number.

Hate giving out my number.

I used to use an texting app to avoid giving out my number. I haven’t really bothered with texting much, so the app has been removed from my phone. And the texting phase really hasn’t happened lately – except with the young guy (remember the 20-something-year-old? He lasted maybe two days and then disappeared).

So, now you’re thinking, why am I so hesitant on handing out my phone number?

With today’s technology, it’s amazing how easily people can find each other. I do searches on social media and various photo sites often – that is how I caught the serial cheater. There are sites to find phone numbers – most of them, you have to pay a small fee to get access to the information. I have tried searching my own number. My town does come up – without paying a fee. I don’t know what information is available if you pay the fee. I do know the service provider is not correct – so I’m thinking the address will probably not be correct as well.

I haven’t really gotten any red flags from this guy. But not like we’ve actually chatted enough for any red flags to show up. There’s still no spark. So am I being mean to give him my number? And I leading him on?

I did ask him what he was looking for: just friends and dating.

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