Ex texted our daughter last night saying he was offered a new job. Honestly, I don’t see him taking it. But if he does then I guess I am going to have to get a lawyer.
The job offer is across the country. Okay, ex already works in another state – which I’m pretty sure not allowed in our divorce papers. BUT he found a loop hole – he moved in with girlfriend. So, even though he works out of state, he receives mail at a local address. So I’m sure the courts would say he still is applying to the divorce decree. In our divorce papers it says we can not move within “x” miles. Now moving across country I am going to have to fight this – not that I want him around. Life is so much easier when he is not here. My daughter doesn’t have a hateful attitude. I don’t have to worry about his drama. But, come on… I know he would want to fly her across the country at times. With all of her activities that would be a challenge. So, I would have to get a lawyer to fight for custody arrangements. Next, the job offer pays more than I have made in my entire life. So, yeah, lawyer would be need to fight for child support. If his income is that much more than mine – I barely survive (that’s not an exaggeration. My income is considered so low that the government sees it as nontaxable.)
Now, in reality I don’t see him taking the job. But it is adding unnecessary stress and worry. I did ask my daughter how she felt about what ex texted, she said she didn’t know – typical teenager answer.
baby steps for you Stormie. My advice is to watch and wait and do it all at once because it’s costly to go back to court even when the ex is in the wrong. I know from experience. Wishing you all the best. What about alimony? Child support? Anything in your divorce which specifies if he makes more, so do you? Just a thought…
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No alimony. Child support, but the lowest amount possible based on a job he had 7 years ago (he makes more now) and he makes A LOT more than I do. But I’ve heard child support can be revisited every so often – I’ve never tried though.
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Yes I think it can, but you should consult a lawyer or google it. I wish you all the best.
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