Everyone hears the saying: Time heals everything.
I know when I first got divorced, or right after dad’s death everyone told me “to give it time. You will heal over time.”
In the moment, you want to scream and cry. You want to call bullshit.
When I got divorced, I believed my world had completely crashed around me. I thought I was making the biggest mistake of my life. I had regrets about divorcing my ex for YEARS!!
I fell into a deep depression. I was physically ill for a few months. I did not function. I finally hit rock bottom and downed all the pills I could find in my house.
I knew I needed help, but ironically there was no one there to help me. I was so scared to go to the doctor. My biggest fear was they would take away my daughter.
I want to say the saying is true. If you’d asked me a couple of years ago if I should have divorced my ex I would have said I’m not sure. Today, I know I made the right choice. I know a part of me still cares about him – not sure if it is because he is the father of my child; he was my first; I’d been with him for 15 years. Another part of me is so happy when I do not have to deal with him.
I know over time it will get easier. I’m hoping the same is true with my dad’s death.
The guy that killed my dad has a court date coming up soon. They are going to see if there is enough evidence to take him to trial for killing dad. Another fear of mine – dad and the entire family will not get justice.
I know there is no set time frame.
Just like with online dating, the first few times I got stood up or ghosted I was so hurt. Now, you ghost me and I block you. No second chances.
Time also makes you wiser. I have learned many life lessons throughout my life, especially over the past six years.
One lesson I learned from was about my depression. I did not want the same thing to happen again, so I talked to my doctor this time.